Here are 3 important marriage truths you may not hear in church:
1. Marriage is not for everyone.
This is a tough one because so many people, men and women alike, young and old desire to be married…and not all of them will marry. I believe the desire for marriage is good and biblical, but our church culture has put such an immense amount of pressure to be married that when it doesn’t happen it’s a big let down — sometimes even more so for the onlookers. Powell explains,
“God has not called everyone to marry. I talk with young men and women that are consumed with finding a spouse. And most of the pressure comes from…US. The church. Once a person reaches mid-twenties, we assume they have a fatal flaw if they aren’t married.“
Powell goes on to caution,
“Shame on us. I am worried many failed marriages are the result of Christians pressuring people into something God did not design them for. Marriage is holy and good, but it is also possible to follow Jesus without a spouse.“
I agree with Crosswalk Editor Ryan Duncan that,
“All Christians desire the blessing of marriage, but we also want to receive that blessing in a way that will honor God. For some that means waiting, for others it may mean forfeiting the blessing altogether. Whether married or single, we must trust that God has a plan for all our lives, and that by His grace we are never, truly, alone.“
There is so much you can learn from God as a single, so don’t waste this time!